#helping women in business

[demaparbat-hp]

Oh, Aang, you're really in it now...

This is Zu—I mean, Jian Li and Katara's second meeting in the Kyoshi Warriors AU. The first proper one, anyway.

Once they get through a minor difference of opinion or two (“I can carry my own basket!” “Never said you—” “I'm not weak!” “I didn't—” “Just because I'm a girl doesn't mean—” “Would you listen for once, woman?!” ) they'll become nearly inseparable.

For now Jian Li will carry Katara's basket all the way to the Kyoshi Warriors' dojo and, once there, they'll mercilessly tease Sokka when they see him in uniform.

[theambitiouswoman]

Success Requires Discipline To:

Exercise & eat healthy

Manage time better

Invest money wisely

Maintain good relationships

Set & achieve goals

Stay organized

Control emotions

Chase personal development

Continue learning

Wake up earlier

Be consistent

Keep focus

Face challenges

Not give up

[coconut530]

PROPOSAAAAALLLLLLL

[doubledaybooks]

“If we can pursue status and we’re surrounded by people who respect, admire, and value us, then one, it doesn’t matter how much power we have, and two, getting power becomes a whole lot easier.”  -Alison Fragale, author of LIKEABLE BADASS

via: https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/want-to-become-more-powerful-and-successful-watch-survivor-suggests-psychologist-adam-grant/90982123

[gem-femmes]

7 Subtle Ways People Try to Sabotage Young Women

In my teens and twenties, people often told me I'd look great with short hair or suggested I buy clothing that didn't suit my figure, age, or personal style.

Their unsolicited "advice" confused me. For the longest time, I thought, why would you suggest this? Don't you have eyes in your head?

Oh, how young and naive I was.

Now, in my thirties, I know what all that poor unsolicited advice people dumped on me was about.

The point was to try to nerf my natural attractiveness and personality. That way, others who felt like they operated with less would look better in comparison.

Sabotage, especially subtle sabotage, can come in many forms. It's often disguised as advice or concern.

These are the most common ways people, intentionally or not, try to undermine young women.

Take the following "advice" with a grain of salt, even if coming from a close person.

🔪1. Appearance-Based Sabotage

Hair and makeup: Telling you to cut your hair shorter or wear less makeup, implying that you should be "less high-maintenance" or that natural looks are "more professional," when in reality, they may be trying to diminish your confidence or attractiveness.

Clothing: Suggesting you wear baggy or unflattering clothes under the guise of being "more comfortable" or "modest," which could be a way to make you appear less confident or attractive. Also suggesting clothing that ages you unnecessarily.

Body shaming: Making comments that subtly criticize your body, such as implying you should lose or gain weight, which can undermine your self-esteem.

🔪2. Career and Ambition Sabotage

Downplaying achievements: Minimizing your successes or implying they are due to luck rather than your skills, which can erode your confidence in your abilities.

Discouraging ambition: Telling you to be "realistic" or not aim too high, suggesting that you should settle for less in your career or personal goals.

"Nice girl" syndrome: Advising you to be more agreeable or not to assert yourself too much, as it might make you "unlikable" or "bossy," which can inhibit your leadership potential.

🔪3. Relationship Sabotage

Undermining relationships: Suggesting that you are "too picky" or should settle in your relationships, which can lead to accepting less from a partner than you deserve.

Toxic advice on boundaries: Encouraging you to ignore red flags or be more accommodating in relationships, which can lead to unhealthy dynamics.

🔪4. Emotional and Mental Sabotage

Gaslighting: Making you question your reality or decisions, leading to self-doubt.

Playing the victim: Acting hurt or upset when you succeed or make decisions for yourself, making you feel guilty for your achievements.

Competitive undermining: Subtly competing with you in a way that makes you feel less than, such as constantly comparing themselves to you or highlighting your flaws.

🔪5. Social and Networking Sabotage

Isolation: Encouraging you to distance yourself from certain people or networks that could be beneficial to you, under the guise of protecting you from "bad influences." When in reality these very people or networks could help you succeed in your career/school or lead to other opportunities to advance.

Gatekeeping: Withholding information, contacts, or opportunities that could help you advance, while pretending to be supportive.

🔪6. Critiquing Your Personality

Labeling assertiveness as aggression: Calling you "aggressive" or "too much" when you stand up for yourself, which can push you to be more passive.

Mocking your passions: Dismissing your hobbies or interests as childish or unimportant, which can make you doubt your own preferences and values.

🔪7. Advice to Conform

Encouraging compliance: Advising you to fit in or conform to certain norms, especially if those norms are limiting or don't align with your true self. (This is different from fitting in in environments where a certain level of professionalism is needed)

Discouraging uniqueness: Telling you that certain behaviors or styles are "too out there" or "not ladylike," pushing you to suppress your individuality.

Recognizing these behaviors is important so that you can protect yourself on time, i.e. before others manipulate you into making a choice that does you no favors.

Trusting your instincts, maintaining a strong sense of self, and surrounding yourself with genuinely supportive people can help you nip these negative influences in the bud.

[toxicdogs]

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[criscura]

I want to get to the good part of this blastvoid thing I'm writing but i do NOT want to write the part before it and I'm procrastinating so fucking hard

Like i know what i want and it'll be satisfying but it's like the reverse of eating beef jerky, where this is the tough gross part you just need to swallow before getting to the fucking SPPIUCCE

[elliethecat]

"I looked into your eyes I thought that I could see a whole new, a whole new, a whole new, a whole new, a whole new world"

It's Sulane and her enby lover Luvan :D

The quote is lyrics from Whole New World (Sophie and Doss Remix) by SOPHIE :D

[merakiui]

Helloo i just came to your blog and found the whole apocalypes au interesting 👀

I dont understand much of the au concept tjo so mind enlightening me? ^^ i wanna see more of it akskaosn

The basic concept is that the world is in disarray and has fallen into an apocalypse due to the effects of blot on mages/magical creatures producing more Overblots than ever before, which has forced those living in this new world to adapt and evolve in order to survive. This means building strong, sturdy compounds and using any means necessary to stay afloat (moral compasses are very skewed and corrupt in this au). Additionally, since women are now seen as a precious resource, they are kept within the compounds for the sake of reproduction. There are seven major compounds: Heartslabyul, Savanaclaw, Octavinelle, Scarabia, Pomefiore, Ignihyde, and Diasomnia, all with their own sets of regulations, traditions, and ways of living. Noble Bell is technically a compound of its own, with Rollo as the leader, and RSA also counts as a compound. But we haven't touched much on both yet!

I will link all of the discussions that have taken place with this au so that you can read more! :D

✧ dorm compounds

✧ bride selection (idia & azul)

✧ information about the husband selection

✧ bride selection (jade)

✧ husband selection (floyd)

✧ husband selection (malleus)

✧ mute bride (azul)

✧ darling who avoids bride selections

✧ husband floyd

✧ gentle non-con with riddle

✧ riddle (un)willingly sharing darling with azul

[keepthedelta]

its actually a bit refreshing to see fernando not date 20yos

the bar is so low. and yet 🤷🏿‍♀️

[tsuchinokoroyale]

If he’s lookin for some thrills, ya hit him with the frills 🐠

[persephoneflouwers]

I have a funny story that can potentially be a fic prompt for a hospital romcom.

Basically I’m close to the end of my Trauma rotation with the Orthopaedics. I ended up being paired with this guy, attending the 4th year not officially in my uni/hospital but only for a 1 year stay. Anyway we had a lot of shifts together and I think I was being oblivious but it is possible he is crushing over me.

Let me tell you what happened so you get why I think so.

At the beginning of the week, I planned my shifts in order to have one 12 shift on Thursday and stay at home on Friday. He wasn’t feeling it lmao and started begging me to be here on Friday to.

On Thursday, he got this pen. I tested it and I liked it. It was soft and blue, so I asked if I could have it. He said no. But later he begged me again “please, you can’t leave me alone with him [the senior doctor in the ER], you know why [we dont like how he works].

I was like “why would I spend the friday afternoon, possibly night, with you in this ambulatory? You don’t even give me a pen!”

And he said “you can have it…”

*i take the pen and put it in my white coat pocket*

“…If you come here on Friday” and he takes the pen back from my pocket! I gasped, affronted.

I said “FINE.” But only because it was more of a pride thing. I’ll get the fucking pen.

So on Friday, I enter the room and greet him, asked how the morning went. He was typing on the keyboard and didn’t even mind me but then he calls me.

“Angie”

“Mh”, mind you I was on my phone, scrolling Louis pic and his new hair.

And he throws the pen at me.

After that we got an emergency, we managed it fine. He was dealing with a huge wound on the leg with bone exposure and all, I was trying to stabilise the patient with a bit of morphine, a vein access and then I put on my sterile gloves to give the wound some stitches and we did it just fine. The other guys (not really nurses but sort of) put on the antibiotics we prescribed and then removed it when it was finished and forgot to close the access so the patient was bleeding and staining the sheets.

They got mad at me (????) because I didn’t close the access. I felt mortified because I didn’t realise and thought I really forgot. He saw I was upset and as the guys where blaming me, he kinda took it easy saying “cmon she did all the rest by herself, easy on her, she’s great” (i even brought in 5L of water for the wound).

I was furious. F U R I O U S.

He read the room and let it go. Then he approached me again when we were alone. I was like “listen, I didn’t do that. They forgot it open, not me.”

He said “I know, are you still mad” YEAH?????? “Cmon I’ll let you fix the dislocation then”

:))))))

[qasian-tech-support]

Please excuse the lighting and the messy bg (I'm in the process of moving in), but I got catcalled by a group of 8 dudes at a gas station today (I ignored them but they called me 'catgirl' bc my hat has cat ears. I think it was regular sexism and not transphobia), and when I went to a Ruby Tuesdays to have dinner with my mom, I was told that a couple of the waitresses were checking me out (and one apparently flirted with me which I didn't realize until later!).

So, yeah, I figured I'd post a pic bc I must've chose a great outfit today

[u3pxx]

is this anything

[doubledaybooks]

Read LIKEABLE BADASS by Alison Fragale

“The ultimate guide for women to achieve their goals. Drawing on her brilliant research and extensive experience, Alison Fragale reveals how to overcome the tradeoff between likeability and competence. But it’s not just for women—it’s a must-read for anyone who wants to be a better colleague, mentor, parent, or partner to half the population.” –Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Hidden Potential and Think Again, and host of the TED podcast WorkLife

[gem-femmes]

What advice would you give to someone struggling to find their path in their 30s?

Off the top of my head ...

Make a realistic assessment of yourself.

Your personal pros and cons. You need to center what you're good at, but you also need to pursue difficult goals and projects that you are not yet good at. Otherwise you'll never improve or learn anything new.

Let your childhood dreams guide you.

I wanted to be a writer as a little girl. Writing is now a big part of my job, but child me had creative writing in mind, so I now pursue this too in my spare time and I feel fulfilled.

Be decisive and move fast.

Timing is everything. When you make a decision, you need to execute as soon as possible, preferably immediately. If you don't, in a few weeks or months you'll cool down on the idea. Your circumstances will have changed, potential collaborators will get swept up in other stuff, etc. You'll give up and never do it. So just do it asap.